Whose haircut is it anyway? Reflections on cutting children's hair.

Reflecting on recent times of cutting children’s hair, I would like to put a special shout out to the children for turning up, amongst various the obstacles in their path to arrive at the destination in settlement.

I’ve seen the child’s haircut booked in the parents name … whose haircut is it?

I’ve heard the parent tell the child what they are having done … whose haircut is it?

I’ve listened to the parent talk underwater, and the child can’t get a word in ... whose haircut is it?

So let’s go back to basics… an adult sits in the chair to get their haircut, they may share pictures of what they love, or describe what they would like to do.  The hairdresser connects with them, and gives more details where required.  When nothing is been interfered with, this could take less than a couple of minutes. So why would this be any different for a child?

With what I have observed, children are absolute with what they want in their haircut when they get to express without any interference. Yes, you as a parent can be an interference.. wait for your turn to talk and then proceed to interact as needed, not to be heard.. just cause you are the parent.

Have you ever wanted to get your haircut in silence? Not a word.. children can also love to do that. How often do they get a space where they can be who they truly are and let it be..allow them the space for their appointment to be whatever it will be for them.

Do you get your child’s haircut on a cycle?

Or do you let them wait until they’ve cut their hair themselves, because you ignored the fact they wanted to get rid of old energy and nourish their soul.

Or in one case, where I had a young girl come in with matted dreads, why … cause her hair hasn’t been washed, brushed for a week. Disregarding to say the least. You could say the young girl was irresponsible, but where is the supportive responsible adult in this situation. The parent sat on their phone for 3 hours whilst we worked through it.
How the child comes in for their haircut, has been lovingly pre prepared by you, the guiding/supportive parent.

Is their hair washed and brushed?

Have they eaten a block of chocolate before they walk in the door ?

Are they on devices prior to getting their haircut?

You catch my drift, they are no different to you in regards to the momentum you might be in before getting your own haircut. What led up to the moment of you sitting still in the chair. Did you support yourself to arrive and receive all?

But it’s not actually about you at all, is it? Whose haircut is it anyway? We are here to love and care for the all.

What might those moments look like before they get a haircut?

Focus and Purpose

No, you don’t have to talk all weird to them, you are probably in a public space anyway.
Sometimes children get scared walking into a space, so coming on time (as in 10 mins earlier) means they get to know the space and be in it for a bit before been taken through.

When they see others getting haircuts, they often aren’t scared any more..

I asked some of my regular clients with children to write about their experiences in the Studio. These two families had not read the above blog when they responded (believe it or not).

From Lee
From the moment you enter Christine’s space, you can feel how she holds purpose and integrity as the foundation and pillars of her work space. Having entered when it’s quieter, or busier, there is no swaying, all is held at an energetic standard that sets a benchmark for anyone who receives anything from the studio, be it a hair cut or a product. Having ours and our children’s hair cut there means as a family, we receive all that is offered from Christine. You can certainly sense that you are receiving so much more than just a hair cut, it’s an attunement that exposes any gaps, and offers a responsivity to what is next.

From Kylie
I’ve noticed that as walking in to the studio it’s an instant pull up of the momentum that’s been running, or it will amplify and show what momentum has been there. This comes with either a reaction or an instant re-alignment  and settlement. This goes for myself and the children.

From Cherise and Ben / William

We take our son William to Christine for his regular hair-cut because she always provides a professional and supportive space. 
Christine really cares about her clients throughout the whole process and in his words

“She listens to the way I like my hair and not many would be as gentle”.

This is important to us because we know he feels honoured for his own style and expression and walks out of the salon beaming with freshness whilst feeling super gorgeous within himself every time.